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tammyo1973
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July 24, 2005, 9:05 am PDT

do you have a therapist

What I hate is the fact that other people who have not experienced any kind of mental health problems do not understand people like me whodo not handle every day stress. I get so stressed out that I will cry all day think about suicide as a way out from feeling so stressed. I become unfunctional. That is why I have had so many jobs and landed in the hospital. And I get the attitude from some people that I can control my bipolar. Well I can take medication, which I do, but when my life starts to get out off balance that is just like throwing fuel on a fire and not expect it to to flame up! It upsets me that everyday stress affects me this way, but how do you keep it from happening. Med's help to a certain point, but what to due when the meds dont help? Ya they say exercise, but when you feel so depressed you cant get out of bed, how are you suppose to put workout clothes on and go for a walk or whatever. And when I have gone for a walk to get my mind off things I think more about them walking. What is there to do when you walk but think! Then I have to pretend Im find around people because they wont understand. Then my husband who is a long haul trucker and only home 4 days a month;I cannt tell him all the time how I feel because it scares him and makes him feel crappy because he cant be here with me. So Im alone in my depression, since there is no support groups in this crappy town I live in. So Im trying the best I can do but sometimes it is not good enough.

Most people with bipolar need to have medication as well as talk therapy.

My daughter has done very well with cognitive behavioral therapy.

Unfortunately most people who are "normal" do not understand mental illness. All we can do is try and educate. My daughter learned the hard way of trying to be "ok or fine" around people when she wasn't. It doesn't work sometimes make things worse. You should not have to hide who you are. Be yourself. I have taught my daughter to surround herself with positive people. If negavtive people are around you will most likely be more negative and all that will do is play on your already fragile self-esteem. At one point in my daughters newly diagnosed illness we have had to stop speaking to my parents because they refused to "get it". She lalso quit speaking to her dad (who had only been around for a few months) because he was in denial and was very negative regarding medications. She couldn't handle trying to be someone she wasn't while with him. It was more stressful for her and wore her out emotionally and mentally. I do not have answers but just want you to know your not alone.

If you need to talk please email me

Tam
 
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kathydream
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July 24, 2005, 9:32 am PDT

I can totally relate

What I hate is the fact that other people who have not experienced any kind of mental health problems do not understand people like me whodo not handle every day stress. I get so stressed out that I will cry all day think about suicide as a way out from feeling so stressed. I become unfunctional. That is why I have had so many jobs and landed in the hospital. And I get the attitude from some people that I can control my bipolar. Well I can take medication, which I do, but when my life starts to get out off balance that is just like throwing fuel on a fire and not expect it to to flame up! It upsets me that everyday stress affects me this way, but how do you keep it from happening. Med's help to a certain point, but what to due when the meds dont help? Ya they say exercise, but when you feel so depressed you cant get out of bed, how are you suppose to put workout clothes on and go for a walk or whatever. And when I have gone for a walk to get my mind off things I think more about them walking. What is there to do when you walk but think! Then I have to pretend Im find around people because they wont understand. Then my husband who is a long haul trucker and only home 4 days a month;I cannt tell him all the time how I feel because it scares him and makes him feel crappy because he cant be here with me. So Im alone in my depression, since there is no support groups in this crappy town I live in. So Im trying the best I can do but sometimes it is not good enough.

Hi 4deena,

  Not sure if you're new to the board, but WELCOME.

   I can totally relate to EVERYTHING you've said except my husband is not a long haul trucker. I was a "newbie" (new to this mssg board) not long ago & the best advice someone gave me was that this is a place you can come to any time of the day (or night). Feel free to say what you feel & none of us will judge you. When I think I'm the only one feeling this way I find out there are others out there experiencing the same feelings.   

  I get so upset when TV programs say murders & rapists are bipolar. THEN Tom Cruise said what he did about Brooke Shield's post partum depression & "mental illness" in general. I don't know about every body else but I have to rely on my pdoc to help me through these roller coaster ways of the daily life of being bp & having a husband who's also bp.

  I might not post very often but I do enjoy reading each & every one of these mssgs.

God bless you Deena & all of us on the board,

Kathy
 
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July 24, 2005, 1:53 pm PDT

4deena

What I hate is the fact that other people who have not experienced any kind of mental health problems do not understand people like me whodo not handle every day stress. I get so stressed out that I will cry all day think about suicide as a way out from feeling so stressed. I become unfunctional. That is why I have had so many jobs and landed in the hospital. And I get the attitude from some people that I can control my bipolar. Well I can take medication, which I do, but when my life starts to get out off balance that is just like throwing fuel on a fire and not expect it to to flame up! It upsets me that everyday stress affects me this way, but how do you keep it from happening. Med's help to a certain point, but what to due when the meds dont help? Ya they say exercise, but when you feel so depressed you cant get out of bed, how are you suppose to put workout clothes on and go for a walk or whatever. And when I have gone for a walk to get my mind off things I think more about them walking. What is there to do when you walk but think! Then I have to pretend Im find around people because they wont understand. Then my husband who is a long haul trucker and only home 4 days a month;I cannt tell him all the time how I feel because it scares him and makes him feel crappy because he cant be here with me. So Im alone in my depression, since there is no support groups in this crappy town I live in. So Im trying the best I can do but sometimes it is not good enough.
Hi i just wanted to ask you what type of depression do you have is it bipolar or depression i know bipolar is a form of depression like PPD.there is a depression board too if you need it they are great over there too.thats where i post alot.good luck .cathy.PS MY NAME IS SPELLED WITH A CNOT A K LIKE SOME POST AND IT CAN BE CONFUSING BECAUSE THERE IS ANOTHER KATHY ON THIS BOARD.
 
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