I have herd alot of people saying "let tem learn the leason and freeze.....I do not belive in that.I havea 9 &10 yr old girls. I have gone threw the same things,,dont want to wear that jacket ,scarf,mits ect(i live in canada). trsut me i want to alow them to do what they wanted and then they would learn by being very cold,,BuT if they got frost bite or very ill,,i am responsible right? (im a caring mom)I do know yelling and fighting with them,,,only shows them to act the same way back....or they zone out and defie ya.
Recently i have came up with something that works fantstic,,,,,,,,,,I got the girls each a jar and dif color poker chips,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Now they both have lists of what they are spose to do wear (according to weather)..example": wake up,get dressesd,make bed,eat, brush teeth,get book bags togeather,jackets /hat ,mits,wait by door to go to school.,,,,,For each thing they DO they get a Chip,,For each thing they do NOT do,,they looze one, I do not subtract the chip fronm what they made,,i make them give it to me,,,that way they feel like they lost one. Behavoir also warnts getting chip or loozing one ,,depending on how they act.Extra things they do besides chorse get s some too.
With the collected chips they can Earn privlidges..( i mean EVERYTHING from a candy ,watching tv,going to a friends house ect)I set the limit on how many chips they need to have in order to do what,,or get something,For an example my 9 yr old wanted to watch tv in the morning( theres not enuff time really) so I put a very High price of chips on it. I have been doing this for a month now and It works fantiatic,,they are learning to control their bad behavior and learning that they need to earn privlidges.Also they have became more helpful around the house and traet each other nicer. Can work with all your kids...let me know if u do try this,and how it goes.
