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August 15, 2005, 11:14 pm PDT
Love your post!
Quote From: missjane2It is true Jadaok that Stepparents USE their kids to continue their fight and antagonism that was in their marriage. Perhaps it's revenge or feeling good that the child likes them better.
I think kids are kids and think like kids. I have 4 kids and the youngest is very ornery and I have worked with him since he has been a baby. The only reason he is not on Ritalin is because he is social and his teachers love him.
Last week he decided he wanted to buy a hamster. He is 8 yrs old. He got a photo from the newspaper for $34.99 and went door to door selling junk and collecting money to buy this hamster. NOW THIS IS MY KID, NOT MY STEP KID. When he was told he is not getting a hamster... He went to his brother and sister and said QUOTE: I don't care what she says, I AM NOT GIVING UP MY DREAM! I will have a hamster someday.
Now his DREAM is to have a hamster. Mine is not! But a ice cream cone, a McDonald Happy Meal, Putt Putt golf, Visiting and playing with a puppy at a Dog Store and other things are good BRIBES to calm a tantrum of an 8 yr old child who feels HIS DREAM is being CRUSHED.
I think little things can go a long way with simple explanations to kids. What a great post. We really give young kids too much credit and credibility. Just as a Happy Meal and a distraction worked on your kid, I think the same is true of step kids. You don't have to lay them out on a couch and given them a text book reason as to why they can't yell and scream all night because they can't get their way. I loved your post
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