Replies to '07/31 Are You a Bitch?'

There is a big difference between being assertive and being aggressive.  You can be assertive and go after what you want but it is not done in a mean or obnoxious pushy way.  I think that the "bitches" fall into the aggressive category.  They don't have reagard for other people's feelings aand will literally run people over with the cart to get what they want.  And you are right that some people do cave in just to get the bitch to shut up.  

I used to be a submissive pushover.  Then I realized that being a "people pleaser" just wasn't working for me because I never got the things that I wanted in my quest to please everyone else.    Then when I tried to break out of this, I sometimes overcompensated and probably came across as aggressive.  I have now reached a nice middle ground where I can usually get things I want or need, but I don't have to run someone else over in order to get it.  I also know when it is appropriate to compromise.  And I take other people's feelings into account. So things seem to be working nicely for both me, and the other people in my life, when I handle things assertively rather than aggressively or submissively.