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February 22, 2006, 6:29 pm PST
 Quote From: lindsey35 I have recently discovered that a close friend has been "living a lie" for years. I can tell you it hurts and I feel betrayed, disappointed, angry, confused, and disappointed. I don't think I will trust the people I meet in the future ever again. If I can have been so stupid to have not seen what a fake she is then how can I trust myself to judge integrity in the future? My husband's also pretty devastated. We are in shell shock, so to speak. Others feel the same. Nobody will confront the liar.......she will just tell more to cover up I expect. Once you find out someone is dishonest there is really no point in setting yourself up for more lies. Once a liar always a liar.
Those who live a lie don't seem to realize that the truth will float to the top eventually - like a corpse hidden in a pond. You can weigh it down, but eventually the truth will out. Decomposed and stinking. Nothing will cover up the smell. The cat is out of the bag........and it's not going back in.......ever. I am so sorry for your pain, Lindsey...please don't close your heart to all people...I believe that there are more people that you can trust than those you can't. For instance, I have quite an extended family and only 1 in the bunch who is blatantly dishonest...some may tell a few "white lies" once in a while, but on the whole all of the rest of us are good people.
You are so right that the truth will eventually surface. If you read the post I posted earlier about my brother, this is another chapter in the book!
My (liar) brother met this woman, fell in love, asked her to marry him before the family ever met her. Well...the family, knowing his sordid past were all torn whether we should tell this woman about his past (lying, stealing, forging checks, etc.,) as we knew he wouldn't tell her up front. So we all chose to keep silent and welcomed her with open arms. She started catching him in lies and then one day at a family gathering she pulled one of the family members aside and started asking questions. Well...after his sordid past was revealed she told him to move out and get counseling. He was so upset and told her he was going to commit suicide which was just a ploy to get her to feel sorry for him, as he used that line that too many times to be serious! I assured her that he would in fact not do so. I felt so sorry for her, feeling that someone should've spoken up. Later she told my sis and I that she wished someone would have! Before it ended he stole 20K in cash from her, took the brand new truck that was in his and her name, and ran off to VT. The next guy she got involved with she had a P.I. check his past first. Well, I vowed never to play that game with him and another woman again and have told other family members that I don't even want to meet his new woman. Good thing they live in another state. I just hope she realizes what she's getting into.....Yes....the past will catch up with you!
Anybody have any ideas how to deal with this type of situation in the future? Tell or not to tell? Don't get involved with the new girlfriend? |
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