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February 20, 2006, 5:21 pm PST
Only child husband...
Quote From: loverules My husband is an only child...I have 5 sisters and a family that isn't perfect. Recently my sister, brother-in-law and 2 year old nephew moved back to the area and they are not, in my husbands opinion, making the right decisions. Jobs, healthcare, apartment, etc. We have gotten into several agruments lately because of this. My family is wonderful! They love us and would do anything to help us, but my husband thinks that he is always catering to them especially my sister, brother-in-law that just moved back. For example, they needed to use our internet access for my brother-in-law to look up jobs and some internet providers. They called about 2 hours before they wanted to come over to make sure it was ok. I asked my husband and he said it was fine. Then after they left he was mad. the next morning we got in the worst argument! I am not sure what to do. I love my sister and my family and do not want to destroy our relationship with them, but my husband is making it hard for me. I feel the issues he has are because he is an only child and I don't know how to deal with it. We have been married for 10 years. Anyone have any ideas? Maybe his jealousy and insecurity is from being an only child, but wouldn't this have shown up earlier? Please remember that your family is so important! Perhaps your husband is jealous because they are so important to you? I think that whatever you can do to help out your sister, that is wonderful. Its sad that you had a huge fight about your relatives using the internet (?) however, next time he wants to have a tantrum about something so trivial and silly, just let him. When he has cooled down, ask him to hear your perspective on the situation. Usually, if both people feel that they are being heard, you can come to a compromise. I wish you the best!
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