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February 21, 2006, 1:39 pm PST
 Quote From: michie41 I think in someways Kelly helped create this monster. Before there are children alot of men are the center ofthe world. But more often then not after the kids that is not the case. My Husband new what he was getting. And if Grant knew Kelly was not going to be "THe perfect wife" he always wanted he never should have asked the poor girl to marry him. I am lucky the only thing my Hubby actually only expects of me is I keep the check book balanced. There are days I can't do much because of health reasons there are days I just I don't feel like it. But most days I do what is needed. Sometimes I do more, but that is because my Hubby works 12 hour nights 4 or 5 days a week. And yes I do spoil him , but if I do not get something done, he knows he just better say It's ok or no biggie. But in return I like to travel and go to concerts and meet up with freinds. I can't drive long distances, so he drives. He may not always like it but it is give and take and we enjoy our time together. He has already driven me as far as Nashville and we live in PA. I don't know about making a guy the "center of the world" and if that's true then they have to understand that when kids come along that's going to change a bit because there's only so much of a person to go around.
I do think that it takes 2 to make a marriage work & I believe that people give us what we accept from them. If my husband took off his wedding ring the question I'd have for him is "does this mean you no longer wish to be married?" because if that was the case then he'd have a bag packed & set out on the porch for him to take as he was on his way out............
I have a mother who WAS the 1050's homemaker & she would have packed that bag too! She was such the duityfull wife :) j/k but seriously she would not have tolerated any of this nonsense. This man would either want to be a life partner or not & if not she'd point the way to the door.
A couple is a partner & yes 50/50 not in what is divided in a marriage but what is *shared*. We are creating and sharing a life together 50/50 what's mine is his & what's his is mine. I've heard Dr. Phil say that we're suppose to be the soft place for our spouse to fall & that's just what my husband & I are. If 1 of us is unable to do something or if 1 of us is doing more at one time then the other just picks up the slack until we're back to sharing the load 50/50 & that's because like you with health reason sometimes it's 1 partner who's able to do more than the other.
I think this man & wife should have & still could just sit down & decide what they want in their marriage & then they need to decide if staying together is still right for them. I think what ever this wife allows her husband will continue to dish out & then it's as much her accepting as him dishing out that he's doing this stuff. If he wants her & I mean really wants her as his wife he'd walk across Georgia to keep her there & slipping a ring on his finger is the very least of what I'd do to keep my husband from walking away. My father would never have behaved the way this man does if he wanted to be married to my mother. My in-laws are much the same & so are my sister & BIL. What you allow in your life is what you'll get. |
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