I am new to the boards, however have been a fan of Dr. Phil, his show, and web site. I am just introducing myself to others who are here through thier grief.....
I lost my son from SIDS at six and a half weeks old June 12,1999. I have come to a point in my grief where I am able to continue on a daily bases, and also memorialize my child as well. The first year was of course the hardest to get through, and each year following did seem to get easier & easier to cope with. We, as a family talk about Baby Jack regularly, in a normal fashion...as normal as it can be that is.
We have made a support group for families who have lost a child from SIDS, and it is our passion to help others through that grief. And of course in the memory of our child is the reason for our hearts desire.
I'll continue to browse around this board for grief..... I hope that others have found this board very helpful to them in thier great time of need!
God Bless you all!
Nancy
Hello Nancy. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I too lost a child to SIDS. Our daughter Carlie died of SIDS on April 25th, 2000. She is a twin. Her twin brother will be starting kindergarten in about 3 weeks. You are right, the pain does lessen, though I am having bittersweet moments with Cody starting school. Buying school supplies for my surviving twin was exciting, but hard at the same time because I know I should be buying for 2.
Where do you live? I live in Ft Worth Texas. Have you heard of SIDSFamilies.com? I frequented that Yahoogroup for a long time. I recently unsubscribed from the group because I have gotten to a better place. It was hard for me to offer support now that life is finally getting to a stable place and the overwhelming saddness is not around as much.
I have also had another little girl. She is 2 1/2, will be 3 on 11-2-05. She was very much our healing baby and really helped our grief.
I was very much into spreading SIDS Awareness and making sure that the average person knew about Back To Sleep and that SIDS cannot be prevented, but now I kind of feel like, my baby is gone, why should it be my job to make sure others try to reduce their risk to save their babies when they won't listen to me? Do you ever feel like that?
I keep in touch with a group of girls I met online in a Babies After SIDS group, and we don't talk about SIDS much at all. We talk about our babies, but not that they died of SIDS. I hate SIDS and I hate what the media has portrayed it out to be. I hate that many people think SIDS is abuse or murder.
What sort of relationship do you have with First Candle? Tom Harris, the current president of First Candle was president of the Local member, the Alliance For Infant Survival, here in DFW.
Well, I just wanted to say hi and let you know there is another SIDS mom that reads these boards. I too haven't posted much so I am pretty new to this. I hope to talk to you soon.
