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December 10, 2006, 8:40 pm PST
Betrayal
Quote From: parisiennePlease see my post in the Bullying (today's show rerun) for more information and back ground on my situation, but I know the feeling of having someone cut you out of their lives for no apparent reason. I am still trying to get over the saga that surrounds a relatively good friendship that turned bizarre these past two years. It is very difficult especially without an explanation. You just end up wondering what you ever did to the person that no longer wants contact. My advice to anyone that wants to end a friendship-- please sit down and talk to the person about why you are doing what you are doing. Just cutting them out of your life with no explanation is a horrible way to deal with former friends. If you believe them to be a detractor in your life, that is alright. It is fine to make decisions about the people that you need in your life in order to be happy and healthy. However, it is always a good idea to give this person you are angry with and/or believe has wronged you a chance to explain themselves, and the possibility to save a friendship. I believe that almost any rational person would appreciate an explanation and opporunity to realize what they did wrong, and understand that they need to chance. Silence is never the best medicine for friendship and it only ends up hurting your former friend more. There are some relationships that must end, however, everyone deserves a second chance. Don't you think so? That couldn't be said more perfect. I have a really good idea why a past friend doesn't want to talk to me anymore...It's those of us that think we have no problems, just the perfect person all around. A relationship will never last thinking like that...You get really tired and annoyed with that friend. I'm not perfect nor do I live to be. But I will try my hardest to try to get as close to perfect as I can. Its a long road and everything takes time. Being hurt is the WORST. But I think of Jesus and all the pain he endured and my hurt doesn't even compare. I know Jesus forgives and that is the way I choose to live my life. If this friend continues to hurt u then you have the option (of course) to run....or not... BUT I do think you owe that friend an explanation sooner than later no matter what that friend did or how bad he hurt you. It's DOWNRIGHT RUDE not to respond to a friend when they want to know why you decided to cut them off. Fine you decide to cut them off thats your choice that you'll live with but be a good person (which Im sure you are) and talk to your friend. You probably have no idea how much he/she is hurting.
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