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Quote From: mphfoil

I am a child of a dead beat dad.  My parents seperated when I was 6 years old and from that point on my father basically paid no child support or very little, then at 8 he moved out of state to Florida and stopped paying it all together.  At this point in time the laws were very lax especially regarding out of state child support issues and my mother was unable to afford the court fees and lawyer fees to battle my father for the money.  What people forget in situations like this is what the child feels when they know that this situation is going on.  I knew my father wasn't paying child support and it made me feel like I was worthless to him and ment nothing because he didn't want to help support me or even really have anything to do with my life.  The pain I felt left lasting impressions on me and on my self-esteem.   And it took years and years for me to learn to release that anger I had developed towards him and to love him again but a part of me will always feel like I was never good enough for him because of that.  My father passed away now a year ago and I hadn't seen him since I was 9 years old though over the years I had talked to him on the phone.  And the last thing he ever said to me was not matter what happened over the years he always loved me and I would always be his baby girl, and he left me only with two things after he passed the knowledge of his love of me and how proud of me he was and a belt buckle.  I just want to say to all the mother's out there who are dealing with dead beat dads of there children don't forget what your child is feeling in this matter and keep fighting.  And for all the father's out there, Love your children and let them know that you love them because you never know if there is going to be a future to presue that in.