Quote From: abruce40i have been married 5 years now and am feeling very neglected. years ago I dated a man who i was the one to break off the relationship, numerous reasons. About 3 weeks ago he contacted me and wanted to see me. We met for dinner, he hasn't changed much at all. he was surprised at well i looked, so he said. Now he wants me back in his life, we had some great times but also some very rocky times. Sometimes I sit and think that it would be great to be single again. My husband is a great guy, but a selfish one. I have 3 children from a previous marriage and 2 wonderful grandchildren, that he is so jealous of our relationship. He has no children and just doesn't understand the relationship with my children that I have even though 2 of them are grown and out of the house. I feel like I have to choose him or the children. The other man never had a problem with the children and feels like that if I want to give to them that I should. He has always said that children do not ask to come into this world and therefore we should never deny them of necessities. My husband and I do nothing together anymore, well except go to the buffet on Friday's. I am afraid that I am going to go to the other man for comfort and do not really know how to sit down and discuss this with my husband. Any suggestions?
The Grass Only Seems Greener on the Other Side! The first thing you should be doing, is talking to your husband about the problems you are having in the marriage. If you have a child at home, a husband and no maid, where do you get the time and energy to go out to dinner with this other man?
Your energies need to be either with working on your marriage, or getting a divorce. Your husband, having no children of his own is clueless, no doubt, on the matter of what it feels like having a child of your own; but you must have had some clues of this prior to the marriage. He can't be totally selfish, as you have one child living with you, and he is out providing for the three of you.
You need to stop and think about not only your morals, but the morals of this man, that is knowingly asking out a married woman, with an entire world of women out there. I am not saying there is anything wrong with you, but you are not his only possibility, and you have made a vow to your god, or usually a person does this when becoming married.
Forgetting the lack of morals of this man, you are not being fair to your husband of only five years. If you are not happy in this marriage, get out! Don't just go and blame your husband's selfishness for your attempt at infidelity. It would be you, and you alone. There is the option of saying no, or getting a divorce. Who is being the selfish one here? I hope this helps.
