Quote From: lyanna96Don't feel bad! A new baby is incredibly hard work whether it's your first or your fifth. You forget what sleep used to feel like, you have no time to be with friends or family (or spouse!), and even if you found some, all you would want is SLEEP!
You find that you are crying (or yelling) almost as much as the baby does, and you feel worse for doing it. It feels like life will never go back to the way it was, and sometimes you feel like it is all the fault of the baby for making your life this way, or your spouse for not helping enough.
And if that weren't enough, you have your mothers (yours and your spouse's- and probably everyone else's as well) telling you that everything you are doing is wrong and that they NEVER had that problem with their babies! Most likely, they just don't remember it.
But don't worry! Everyone feels that way!
I got through it by doing few things:
1. telling myself again and again "It gets better... it gets better... it gets better..."
2. talking to- my doctor and other parents with children the same age.
3. not being too shy to ask for them to do the dishes or laundry or to watch the baby while you do it when they say "Can I help you with anything?"
My younger is 4 months old now (and finally sleeping through the night... sometimes) and my older is 2 years old.
It gets better... it gets better... *smile*
Thank you for writing this as this is very much the way it can be for alot of us Mum's especially for first time Mum's that don't know what they are doing and if they are doing all the right things, so it really does help to have someone who has been there done that afew times say these words.
And yes it does get better, I have a 3 year old daughter and I can honestly say that she really hasn't been any problem since the day she was born. Yes of course that has been the odd time that she has played up or has been sick but she has never been a Nightmare child. I really feel for the Mum's that have had those "Nightmare Child/children."
Anyway, again thank you for these very true words, TAKE CARE. LOVE KELLY.
