Replies to '02/21 More Wifestyles'

This is a dangerous generalization. How many abused wives stay for this very reason? Women need to earn money and get an education and have their own money before marrying I think. 

Meanwhile, this relationship is very bad and based on the idea that a stay-at-home-mother is supposed to be a slave. If a woman chooses to be a housewife (Ugh) rather than a mother and wife who does her fair share around the house, it is likely she doesn't know the job description or is a masachist who needs help.  A mother is a person who spends time nurturing children and should not be expected to do all of these other household "duties." Women should have the same choices as men do. This woman is doing 5 jobs...full time...so of course, she can't do all of them perfectly.  I don't know why cleaning the house ever got connected to being a wife and mother.  (Well, I do. It is related to the low status of women historically but come on this is 2006!) Just because a woman is home with the children, who need all her attention, does not make her a maid. Does  a man who is an engineer who works in an office have to clean the office? Housecleaning is a totally different job and should be shared 50/50 or paid for so someone else will do it. This woman would be better off getting a part time job and earning half of the cost of a cleaning service (he should oay the other 50%) than trying to do it all herself. Does the presence or absence of certain anatomical parts make someone a slave to be ordered around? She does not work for him any more than he works for her. I'd love to give him a talking to of my own! 

Oh my.  You may be hopeless too but here goes: 

Single mothers who live in poverty ..are often the result of a dead-beat dad, or a dad who wouldn't admit his involvement or take responsibility.  Not ALL single moms are destitute - I know - I was a single mom.  The dad made sure to never make any money so as not to pay any child support and what few checks I did get bounced.  But - poverty?  Not insanely wealthy but bought a house, cars, had everything necessary and then some....and no welfare or food stamps. Just me, myself and I.  You may want to check some stats.  Self-sufficient single moms rarely get much press. 

"No intelligent guy will date one"? -- I think you mean no self-centered guy will date one -- and some will - at least for a date or two.  Been there!  Met them!  Also dated a lot of very intelligent, college grad. guys who wanted very much to be a dad to my child. 

There are a lot of wonderful step-fathers out there who will debate you on your "point" and give you a REAL run for the money on the intelligence issue.  I know, I'm married to one - a hard-working college graduate.  It points to maturity, compassion, and a whole realm of things I suspect you'd not relate to, to be seriously involved with a woman with children. 

Kelly DOES have brains - it's just that her husband has chipped away most if not all of her self-esteem. 

It's opinions/attitudes like yours that keeps women in worthless going-nowhere abusive relationships thinking "but who else would want me?"..and convinced they can't make it on their own b/c some guy has brainwashed them into believing that.   

I have been reading over your posts. As an American Chick, just wanted to thank you for the laugh. 

Sorry that you feel so crappy about things, but I really have gotten a good laugh from reading your views on things.