Quote From: jenoc99I agree with the other poster about writing down all that you want and need to say to her, its important that if you are going to finally confront her that you get out everything that you've been storing up for 18 years. Ignoring her behavior hasn't made things better, someone needs to put her in her place. You and your children don't deserve to be treated like dogs from this woman!
Do you think that writing a letter to her would be more effective? I was just thinking that if you confronted her in person or on the phone, she might interupt you and change the subject towards other things, so it might be more effective for you to write a letter. It could be a calm letter, doesn't have to be nasty or anything, you don't want to stoop to her level. You don't even need to bring up the past and give specific examples, you can just let her know that from here on out you need her to show more respect towards you and your children because the way she treats others is wrong. I wish you luck with this...is it possible to just not see them again if she continues to be like this?
Jen
That might be a good approach, because your right she would interrupt me and probably end up telling me more stuff Ive done wrong according to her. But I really think my husband should also be involved, he has taken this crap from her for 46 years and I he needs to be part of this, after all he to, has let me take alot of blame and criticism from them and he did nothing to stop it If this is going to be effective it has to be a team effort right? I don't know what to do I cant stay away from them forever and I think just ignoring it is not going to make it go away but I also know that whatever I say she wont acknowledge it anyway because she is not living in the real world (if you know what I mean). Either way Im in a lose, lose situation right? But I know that if she does that to me again I will blow up and it will not be pretty I can only hold so much in. My h says he will back me whatever my decision and says he will be on phone if I do call. I dont know what do I do?
