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March 1, 2006, 10:20 am PST
Repairing Broken Relationships
Quote From: jenoc99What about going over there to see her? Your daughter is depressed. Being depressed isn't an attitude problem. When she told you that she would stop talking to your husband at point, did she say why? It would be best if all three of you could talk about the reasons why she would want to stop speaking to him, and try to resolve those issues. In the beginning of your post you admit that you had "short fuses" when she was living with you, I think it could do your relationship alot of good if you were to talk to her and tell her that you acknowledge that. Just to tell her you know that you had little patience, and that you wished you handled your anger better. It could help to heal your relationship if you were to go to her and extend yourself, especially because she has depression and needs love and support more then ever right now. Thanks for your input. I eventually did apologize (a few days later) and went over to her apt where I found out she had moved a young man in, also found out a guy she was seeing while she was married actually broke her ankle because he was angry and on drugs. She did tell me all this and was honest about it, which I did appreciate. We're now trying to deal with depression again, she's has moved on to another younger man who has moved in along with his sister. My husband attends 12 step meetings (al-anon), I see a therapist frequently. Our daughter won't do either one. We're so worried about her - no health care, not much self-esteem, she can't seem to keep a job or get one because she can't function every day on a regular on-going basis. She works for us when she can (we have rental property, but not enough to keep her employed full time), and has $1,400 a month coming in from her ex, which will end in September of this year. I don't know how she'll support herself after that. Also her ex is making her car payment right now, frankly I think she'll lose her car after he stops paying for it. Anymore input would be GREATLY appreciated.
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