Quote From: gallenAre the only real changes you've made so far that a) you don't say what you think as often and b) you're lightening up on Kelly by staying away from her through your hobbies in the hope that she'll do better if you aren't harping at her?
If this is correct, aren't these changes better than the way things before. From a "What is the net result, bottom line" perspective, isn't this an improvement?
Grant---
What you don't seem to understand is that if you have a change of HEART----a true deep-down change of acceptance stemming from genuine LOVE and empathy for Kelly's predicament---the change of actions will naturally follow. Please reread the post to which you were responding. It is the most perceptive that I have found here. Simply stifling the negative comments and actions is not enough. You've got to turn your way of thinking around. With 2000 posts to the contrary, you still think you're perfectly justified in your thinking and your actions. You think if you just mutter your complaints under your breath instead of out loud, your problems will go away. It won't work that way!! You've got to change your way of thinking! If not, you're won't have to concern yourself with this problem a lot longer because Kelly is going to eventually get fed up!
