Does he know where the shelter is?
You had better start taking an inventory of those relatives of yours.
At least some of them can't be trusted. You better face that.
And I suggest that you NOT TRUST HIS RELATIVES, any of them, either. Where do you think he learned this crap from? These relatives don't have your best interest at heart, or your children's, either.......they just want the grand babies near. Afraid you might leave. WHAT KIND OF CONCERN OR HELP IS THAT? None, it appears.
What out for phone logs on your land lines ..and redial.....and *69, which gives him access to your last call coming in.
Then there are the cell phones, oh geeze! Is your account only in your name?
You were using your head when you removed the important papers from the house...and copies of others....in a safe place. Good for you.
Stop Telling him, and those that can not be trusted ....stop telling them a darn thing.
Its obvious that you have people around you that don't really take this horrible physical abuse seriously......well, you need to.....and so you need to do lots of things differently. This is a serious matter.