Quote From: bev3horsesI don't know that anyone can tell the real answer to those questions but, the therapist says that because of her childhood and the fact that she has never had a good image of herself, she reacts to everything by lying. As a child she would lie to make people like her, as an adult its no different. She would lie to keep out of trouble (as most of us have done), and as an adult she does the same thing.
Facing the facts and the truth might put someone like that into a state of depression, think about it, all of a sudden they realize their life is not what they were hoping for, they aren't who they wanted to be, they don't have the things they've always wanted, they aren't rich, they didn't marry Mr. Perfect, all of this could wreck a person if they've always pretended to be something other than who they really are.
I'm sure there are many reasons why pathological liars are just that. My sister's therapist says that because she has lied for 20+ years and has always gotten away with it, it has become truth.
Good luck.
BEV
Yes I agree that a lifelong habit stops just being a habit and becomes part of their personality. If they lie long enough it stops being a choice and they just beomce a "liar". The most disturbing part is that the pathological ones believe their own lies. The one in my life is a relative and he says one thing one minute and believes it, then something completely different half an hour later, and believes it. I used to try to point out these things, but he would just argue back with more lies. Very frustrating and I have given up now because it is not my problem. I know all humans lie but there comes a point where they dont seem to be able to tell the truth from their fantasy world any more. Thanks for responding to my post and have a great day.
