Replies to 'The Other Woman'

Quote From: ritehere

 This is what you THINK is in most women and men's minds when they cheat. If men REALLY just wanted sex, wouldn't it be far easier to go to a prostitute? Think about it, they have to go to some lengths to cheat with a woman and not be found out. And obviously the disease aspect is not uppermost in people's minds when they make their decision to cheat, so why would they go to the hassle of all the planning, subterfuge, and lying when going to a prostitute would be discreet and just pertain to sex from the git-go? I think that they are looking for validation, they WANT the emotional feedback, and pros just can't provide that sincerely.  And women are looking for emotional feedback also, they will overlook obvious clues to reality for those few moments of personal (if fantasy) fulfillment.
I've been tempted. I did not act on it because I knew that it really wasn't HIM I wanted, it was the idea of what he could provide that tempted me. I didn't even know him, it was all a fantasy of what he could do for me! Fortunately I had the knowledge and tools under my belt to not only understand my motivations, but to take them in hand. I was sorely tempted let me tell you! He had absolutely no idea that I was attracted because I never let him know, I never acted on my impulses. It was very difficult, but I'm very proud of myself now. Srb, one day you, too, might be tempted, and then understand first hand what happens emotionally. I congratulate you for trying to wrap your mind around this thorny issue, it IS hard not to judge others when you don't understand the motivations.