Replies to '07/05 Liar, Liar'

Bascially, my husband lies. All the time. Little lies or rather "omissions of truth" are they the same? I think so. 

Anyway, I have trust issues to begin with and threw myself into this relationship wih both feet. He has NEVER given up himself to me as far as trusting me goes. I never know where I stand, I never know where HE stands and when I ask outright, he just avoids the questions.  

The half truths and omissions have broken me down and now I don't trust him at all. Even when I have told him "you cannot lie to me, I can't take another person lying to me" he lies. WTF? 

I finally figured it out though. It's because he doesn't want to answer for what he has done wrong. He doesn't want to DEAL with me. In all honesty, he doesn't DEAL with a lot from me. I'm as far from a nagging bitch wife as you can get, but when someone lies to me, they have to deal with my wrath. That's the only thing I ask. He has never had to deal with anything more than everything he deserved for the situation.  

So rather than telling me the truth about money he's spent, people (women) he's been talking to or how many drinks or cigarettes he's had while he was supposed to be "working", he just doesn't tell me. The thing is, he thinks I'm an idiot and I'm far from it. I notice all the little hints, like the gum he chews to hide his cigarette breath or the need to take a nap immediately upon returning home before the last shot he had at the bar hits him and he starts to slur his words. I also manage the money so I always know how much is coming in and how much I need to pay bills. I rather quickly notice when there is say a $1000 descrepancy. And he wonders why I get pissed at him.  

People who lie are chicken shits. They just don't want to be accountable for their bad behavior. Period.