When a man is adamant about pursuing something that his beloved partner is against, it can feel as though a potential rape is about to occur. There is definitely something else going on- not just a request for a different position or a new game. 
 
One the flip side, if you are just apprehensive about trying anal sex, or have a stigma attatched to the act, there are some products you can try to go farther with an understanding partner- knowing that porn stars use a lot of products of this nature because that particular area needs a lot of lubrication. The big thing is, if he is willing to take the time to go slowly, and if you are willing to try. Otherwise, its not going to work for you. The products are Anal Eze and also Anal Lube. Using a lubricated condom can also make it a little easier for you. If you need more info and don't want to hit the boards, you can email me at opsarge@earthlink.net Queenie