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Replies to '06/12 On the Outs With In-Laws'
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February 27, 2006, 2:24 pm PST
 Quote From: tripleh I think manipulators like that mother in law should be beaten' at their own game, should be hurt as much or as more than her "victims" because they should feel the same way because they brought on them selves. So take a moment to think do I want to be a "victim" of that mother in law/someone else,or do I want to stand up and say something that would hurt and manipulate that $#%*#. Even though that just walking away might be the best option, nothing is resolved. The conflict is still in progress. Even though I want to manipulate and hurt her in places where there is no hurt in them, that would probably increase the rage in that women and would want to hurt you more and more. Me, well I would just go up to her face and tell her "that's It. I don't want this in my life. I don't want nothing to do with you. NOT ANYMORE!!" Maybe it's resolved if you do that but it's all about choices. Life is about choices and it's up to you to make that choice. What are you going to do? I think you are wrong, my daughter-in-law has moved through our family like a mac truck, mowing down everyone who gets in her way, but to hurt her as much or more than she has hurt us would only be bringing the rest of us down to her level. It started before my sons wedding when my daughter could not afford a hundred dollar tux for my four year old grandson to wear as ring bearer, she was told by my daughter_in_law that he would be replaced. My grandson thought his uncle hung the moon and was really excited to be in the wedding and would have been crushed, so my daughter managed to borrow the money and get the tux. At the reception, my daughter_in_law got angry at the groomsmen and made them all leave the reception. My son no longer speaks to his former friends.After returning from their honeymoon, they were living with my daughter. One evening while having drinks with my son and his new wife and five other friends, my daughter-in-law said that she hated my four year old grandson so much that she wished someone would smack him so hard that he would fly up against the wall and die. I did not tell my daughter what she said, but my sister did and my daughter made them move out. My son asked me to lie to my daughter and say his wife didn't say it. That ended the relationship between my son and daughter and between my son and his nephew. I could go on and on about how she has hurt us, as I write this "they" have decided that I am dead to them and want no contact with me. I really have no idea what I did this time. All I do know for certain is that to say nothing is the better way. To tell either of them that I don't want them in my life anymore would just bring me down to their level and trying to hurt or manipulate her like she has done our family would just give her more power. Anyway my choice was to just walk away and not say anything anymore. My son is my son and I love him very much and this situation hurts me to the core, but what else can I do? He is sticking by his wife, as he should and I am after all just his mother. Any contact I would try to make with either one of them she would consider harassment. So I keep silent. I have not seen or heard from either of them since October 2005 and don't expect I ever will again. |
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