Replies to '02/27 Twisted Love: The Aftermath'

It never ceases to amaze me what lengths people will go to justify their actions.  I don't have to walk in your shoes to know that it's wrong to have an affair with a married man.  I recently found out that my husband was cheating and took him back thinking he was "remourseful" and "wanted to make things work" only to find out that he had only told his girlfriend that she could wait in the wings while he came back to his family (half-heartedly).  What do women like you expect?  Do you think that wives that live with these men day to day for years are valued and adored like we should be?  If that were the case he wouldn't be with you would he? The funny thing is that women that cheat with married men get exactly what they deserve and that's a life of wondering if he'll ever leave his family for her and if he does he will probably do the same thing to her.   

My son and I are better off without the lies and the turmoil his actions caused our family.  It's been a hard and trying time but we will survive and are thankful for supportive family and friends.  We deserve so much more than my soon to be ex can deliver on his best day. 

Amber123 

You really do need to walk a mile in someones shoes namely the wife that is betrayed by her husband.  Almost all men that are having an affair say they are unhappy in their marriage.  So you gained 4 years of his love but what did that gain you long term?  You stated "you are sad that your so called friend's marriage was bad," so sad that you kept your relationship with him for 4 years.  You only heard his side of the story more than likely, what was her side of the story?  Do you honestly feel that him having an affair with you helped their relationship?  How can you say you are sorry for his wife that she consider staying in the marriage with 3 older daughters and setting such an example.  Aren't you really saying that you are upset that he didn't leave her for you? You also stated "Why would anyone want to be with someone that does not want to be with them and them alone."  I agree if a wife/husband doesn't want to be with them alone then they should get a divorce not have an affair while they are still married.  You are no better than any women that have been talked about in this message board that you would have an affair with a married man.  Just like Charles you are trying to justify your actions for your affair with this still married man I assume. Only Charles and Tracy know what is best for each of them and if they can mend Tracy's broken heart. Only they can fix the problems or what was missing in their marriage but Charles having an affair was not the solution to making their marriage better.  Hopefully, with a good counselor they will work it out.   Sincerely,  A Concerned Mom