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February 28, 2006, 11:09 am PST

I've had it...

Quote From: jenoc99

First of all, I wouldn't believe a word this guy has to say!! You should know by now that he is full of sh*t. Look at what you wrote: " He took on a blue collar job to prove to the court that he has no money (temporarily closed down his company)." and then you say: "He has agreed to take the boys if he gets away with not having to "dish" out alot of money in support." I urge you to consider this decision very carefully... why would he allow you to have your children back after willingly giving them to him? Wouldn't he want to punish you by keeping them and possibly making up terrible things about you.. since he is obviously capable of doing whatever it takes to "win" in his eyes. I know that getting through school is important- I agree that it is very important! However... have you considered that if you don't get much support, putting off finishing your last year of nursing school until the kids are older? Its just such a risk to allow him to take your children.. he doesn't sound like the kind of person you can trust. I know that its easy to want to believe the good things that he says... but remember who you are dealing with!! Watch your back.
Well, first of all, I would never allow him to take custody of the children unless I had legal papers drawn up by my attorney and went before a Judge to "seal the deal".  I don't want to treat my boys as if they are game pieces, but my ex's main objective is to try and keep me dependent on him for as long as possible and see me fail at reaching my goals and dream.  If I quit school now with only one year left, when and if I ever returned, I would have to start all over from the beginning.  I am starting to see the "light at the end of the tunnel" and I just know the next year will fly by and I will be an RN (a major dream and goal of mine).  I definitely would NOT proceed with anything without legal documents in place stating that once I am finished with school, I will resume Primary Custody.  It is really a touchy subject and tough decision to make.  My court day is actually tomorrow on March 1st.  It will tell the tale and I will better know how the next year of my life will play out once the Judge makes her ruling.  Thanks for your advice, I will keep you posted.
 
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March 3, 2006, 5:20 am PST

I had my "Day" in Court...

Quote From: jenoc99

First of all, I wouldn't believe a word this guy has to say!! You should know by now that he is full of sh*t. Look at what you wrote: " He took on a blue collar job to prove to the court that he has no money (temporarily closed down his company)." and then you say: "He has agreed to take the boys if he gets away with not having to "dish" out alot of money in support." I urge you to consider this decision very carefully... why would he allow you to have your children back after willingly giving them to him? Wouldn't he want to punish you by keeping them and possibly making up terrible things about you.. since he is obviously capable of doing whatever it takes to "win" in his eyes. I know that getting through school is important- I agree that it is very important! However... have you considered that if you don't get much support, putting off finishing your last year of nursing school until the kids are older? Its just such a risk to allow him to take your children.. he doesn't sound like the kind of person you can trust. I know that its easy to want to believe the good things that he says... but remember who you are dealing with!! Watch your back.
OK, an update...We went to court on the 1st and the Judge gave her ruling on the 2nd.  I was awarded $2,000.00/month in support (child and post separation support combined)... My ex was crying as the Judge read her verdict.  I will be able to not only pay all of my bills with that, but will be able to supply my boys needs.  I won't be taking them to movies every weekend, or going out to eat dinner very much, but the important thing is I can finish school, keep my boys with me and have our needs met.  I am also working part time as a waitress and that will help alot too.  I have been so happy and excited since court.  It all worked out for the best and I am very pleased.  Thank you for your encouragement...
 


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