Replies to 'Overcoming Grief'

hello from down under, I can relate to the grief lots of us have. I thought that after dad had died, never coming out of icu and consiosness I was so sad but then six months later when mum died , who had been ill for nearly 10years and us kids kept her going by telling her the next birth of her great grandchild was coming we kept her going for years, it was devestating to us to lose them both, I collapsed and had a week in icu and hospital from the shock, Dear God, there were times, i didn,t want to go on anymore, but the family and prayers kept me going but some days are so hard still even though for dad it has been two years and mum in november two years, each day is a struggle, I have moved to be near our children and grandchildren which is ok but sometimes friends are easier to talk to and i really miss them all. My husband supports me emotionally even though at first it must have been hard too for him, the emotions and thoughts of  a hard upbringing is still in the back of my mind and being the eldest child and trying to be courageious for my sister and brother was very hard for me . Why is it hard to show emotions and to stop trying to be strong in front of everyone one when i need to cry and feel sad and the memories that keep coming into my eyes. Each time we visit down south from where we lived, i always have a weep when coming close to home , when does the pain go, never i guess, my sister and i went to the cemetary and put a dove and sea shells around the grave site, but that made me feel so sad again, my sister who was the main care giver of both mum and dad is handling it so much better than i am, my brother is so so about it, we don,t talk much about mum and dad, maybe that is the problem, we should open up more, help anyone, grief is so hard., bye from rose. from mudgee australia 

hello from down under, I can relate to the grief lots of us have. I thought that after dad had died, never coming out of icu and consiosness I was so sad but then six months later when mum died , who had been ill for nearly 10years and us kids kept her going by telling her the next birth of her great grandchild was coming we kept her going for years, it was devestating to us to lose them both, I collapsed and had a week in icu and hospital from the shock, Dear God, there were times, i didn,t want to go on anymore, but the family and prayers kept me going but some days are so hard still even though for dad it has been two years and mum in november two years, each day is a struggle, I have moved to be near our children and grandchildren which is ok but sometimes friends are easier to talk to and i really miss them all. My husband supports me emotionally even though at first it must have been hard too for him, the emotions and thoughts of  a hard upbringing is still in the back of my mind and being the eldest child and trying to be courageious for my sister and brother was very hard for me . Why is it hard to show emotions and to stop trying to be strong in front of everyone one when i need to cry and feel sad and the memories that keep coming into my eyes. Each time we visit down south from where we lived, i always have a weep when coming close to home , when does the pain go, never i guess, my sister and i went to the cemetary and put a dove and sea shells around the grave site, but that made me feel so sad again, my sister who was the main care giver of both mum and dad is handling it so much better than i am, my brother is so so about it, we don,t talk much about mum and dad, maybe that is the problem, we should open up more, help anyone, grief is so hard., bye from rose. from mudgee australia