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February 28, 2006, 9:15 am PST
 Quote From: obxsister ...All you really want from the 50's is for women to stay home with her kids and keep house. Well, that's just not possible in every instance. Some women have to work to make ends meet, and day care is the only option for them. Some women have no man in their lives. And some women just plain feel like they'll go crazy without an adult to talk to every day. They feel fulfilled by persuing a career. Some women feel that they can best serve humanity out in the world as a doctor or a teacher. It's a matter of choice. And since you're only 24, have only been married 2 years, and have no children, I don't believe you can say what your lifelong CHOICE will be. But please don't put down people who have chosen another route---particularly when those people have a bit more life experiences to draw upon. P.S. A "woman of color" means any minority, and it is a perfectly acceptable term---and I believe you have written a novel of your own! She did make herself clear. You're just here to argue, obviously.
I think the fact that she is only 24 with no children, but still has these values is actually a good thing. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want BEFORE you have children. Too many women have children and then try to discover themselves, only putting aside their families for their own personal goals.
Personally, I think that if you are going to have children, that you should make every effort to have a parent stay home while they are young, and before they start school. If that's not possible due to financial reasons or the like, then both spouses have to do what's right for the family, and if that means that both have to work to put food on the table then so be it.
I think the problem we have today is that too many women have children, and refuse to sacrifice their careers, or even put them on hold for a few years for the sake of their children and their families.
The fact that some women choose to stay home and hold dear the values that were instilled in our mothers and grandmothers is a great thing. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be home and make your house a home and keep your husband happy. You can't tell me one thing, even in your vast experience, that's wrong with that.
No one is saying that everybody should feel that way. But, if everybody did, can you imagine what a better world we would be living in? If everybody knew where their children were, who their friends were and so on, could you imagine how much better that would be as a whole?
The 50's were symbolic of those notions. That's why we refer to them. We're not talking about discrimination, or being held back in any way.
I don't know if I just missed it, but what's your story? Are you married? Kids?
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