Quote From: gradmabearNo, you don't break family ties completely lady. That will come back and bite you in the hinder some day. You may be controlling your hubby and kids now and be all happy, but some day your husband will want to see his mother again. You go to counseling and you try to work it out with your mother-in-law. Friends can say they don't want to see each other, but you are FAMILY. That is the difference. What will you say when your kids eventually meet their grandmother and get mad at you for keeping her from them all these years. Your life will not be happier than ever long. Mark my words! I'm an old lady who has seen this many times.
The fact that your husband has been "outcast by other family members" speaks volumes in this. Could you just maybe be feeling a little threated by the love his mom has for him? Maybe you just had a rocky start and need to work through it with a counselor. You don't see any need right now, because YOU feel happy. What about your family? You owe it to them to try. I hope you do.
I don't think it's fair to imply that her family is not happy with the situation the way it is, or that she is controling. We don't know how hard they have tried to mend fences with her MIL or that her husband even wants to have a relationship with her.
As far as the grandchildren go, I can say from personal experience that my parents' marriage and my childhood would have been better had my mother kept her mother from us. She was a terribly mean woman, who contributed nothing but drama, chaos, and hatred to our lives. My father was always cordial to her, but her hatred for him was palpable. I have never felt anything but contempt for her.
