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August 17, 2005, 10:25 am PDT
 Quote From: parisienne While it may upset some people to "blame the victim" -- victims are not always 100% innocent. I've been saying this all along...sometimes supposed "victims" can be the bullies in disguise. In this day an age when there is new awareness of such problems and there is more and more being done about it-- if you have someone that has been secretly (whether it be physically or verbally, or even social abuse) tormenting you for weeks and then you finally get upset and exclaim, "oh I'll get them!!!" it can be percieved as a threat to the other student when the whole story hasn't been brought to life. Personally, even though I suffered bullying during middle school, I think that there is more advanced, smarter type of bully (sociopathic perhaps?) that can use concerned parents, teachers and school administrations to do their bullying for them. All you have to do is level an accusation that someone you don't like is bullying you and you don't have to do anymore. Their reputation is ruined and you can keep doing whatever you want to them and if they fight back it makes it worse for them. Watch out for this...I've seen it happen and it has happened to me.
I disagree with you, some victims can be innocent in it. I was bullied for years in school, and I can not remember an instance of where I made them bully me. I was a quiet, reserved, intellegent person who kept her nose in a book for most of my school years. In fact, three of the girls who bullied me had been my friends in elementary school, then we were parted for a year, she was in sixth and I in seventh, and the year after that she started in on me. It was never something my parents cared to deal with or help me with [long story with that but they basically bullied me at home too] so I was left to deal with it on my own. The teachers ignored it, the bus drivers ignored it, and one day in 11th grade I had enough and popped someone in the nose. That ended the whole thing. No one bullied me again. I can tell you though, if I saw any of these girls today, I'd open up a can of whoop a-- on them.
I think these schools need to adopt a no bully policy. Not one that is just written down, but one that is actually enforced. The schools ARE responsible in providing a safe and stress free enviroment so our children can learn. And any adult who ignores this responsibility by refusing to help, or making it harder for the bullied children and easier for the bullies, is a bully themselves. It is idiotic to think that when parents try to get something done about it they are turned away.
On the show, they had the mother who's daughter had killed herself because of a bully. The girls that pushed the daughter over the edge should have been punished. The rumors and "theme of the day" thing should have been stopped. It should never have happened. How many adults work at that school? How many of them saw something questionable? Heard something questionable? And yet no one helped. They aren't innocent in this, they stood by and let it happen, when they d--n well should know better. They are weak people, probably more interested in a perverse popularity contest with the kids, being the cool teacher, that they end up bullying the unpopular kids. It's a shame to our society to have parents afraid of sending their kids to school. A shame that some teachers and school staff have no backbone, no compassion and no common sence to help when it's needed.
~Cenobia |
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