Quote From: cenobiaHi,
Thank you for writing back. I had a long talk with my husband last night and told him I was on the verge of really filing for a divorce if nothing changed. He tried to excuse his behavior when we argue by saying that he is mad and things just come out. I told him that I can not argue like that anymore and it has to stop. That it really effects me when he says things like that, even just knowing he doesn't mean it doesn't really help much. I also let him know that my needs aren't being met and he can no longer ignore me. He doesn't think that he is though, so we are going to try to meet in the middle more. Hopefully this canyon between us can be crossed. I think he's been comfortable in where we were and hasn't realized that we've been slipping away from each other. We'll see how it all works out.
thanks again
Cenobia
Hi, I am new to the message boards. Your husband sounds a lot like mine. I have told my husband repeatedly how I feel about his lack of effort around the house. He will help out depending on his mood or if I finally lose it because I am so frustrated. Believe me, divorce enters my mind frequently. I think part of the issue with the lack of help is control. My husband doesn't want to be told to do anything. I think he purposely leaves things messy or doesn't clean up after himself just to get back at me. Maybe your husband is subconsciously doing the same. Please don't expect a miracle....your husband's behavior may improve for a while, but eventually he'll slide right back to where you started. It is such a huge committment to make marriage work and we women can't create a successful marriage alone!!
