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jayndoe7
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February 28, 2006, 11:26 pm PST

03/02 Our Biggest Battle

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It seems so craz that any couple would battle or have an all out war over the discipline of the kids.    Why is it such a problem for your kids to abide by the rules and respect others? That is the makings of a responible respectable adult.  I would absolutely never allow my kids to be disrespectable to me or my spouse.   Is it turmoil they want to cause?  But battling over it ohhh, for me thinking baout it NO WAY! 

  

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 I think what causes the problems in so many relationships is not whether to teach the children to abide by the rules and respect others but how to go about teaching them that. In some marriages one parent will believe you should yell, scream, threaten, degrade, and otherwise bully children into listening while the other will believe you should lead by example, talk, discuss, and set reasonable consequences for breaking rules. Then of course, both parents think they're way is the right way and it becomes a battle over who is right and who will get their way (a lot of times).
 
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March 2, 2006, 1:24 pm PST

03/02 Our Biggest Battle

Quote From: ruffagirl

It seems so craz that any couple would battle or have an all out war over the discipline of the kids.    Why is it such a problem for your kids to abide by the rules and respect others? That is the makings of a responible respectable adult.  I would absolutely never allow my kids to be disrespectable to me or my spouse.   Is it turmoil they want to cause?  But battling over it ohhh, for me thinking baout it NO WAY! 

  

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I've been in those kids shoes before.  It is NOT the step-parents responsiblity to discipline the children!!  I moved out of my house when I was 16 because I was tired about being grounded for years. I am a responsible adult.  I went to college and paid for my own way.  I have lived on my own since I was 17.  I bought everything for me by myself.  I was a good kid when I lived at home.  I was grounded for forgetting to take out the trash, not because I a disrespectful kid.  My mother and I still do not have a relationship to this day and I am 27. 
 
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March 2, 2006, 1:51 pm PST

sorry to be so candid

Quote From: ruffagirl

It seems so craz that any couple would battle or have an all out war over the discipline of the kids.    Why is it such a problem for your kids to abide by the rules and respect others? That is the makings of a responible respectable adult.  I would absolutely never allow my kids to be disrespectable to me or my spouse.   Is it turmoil they want to cause?  But battling over it ohhh, for me thinking baout it NO WAY! 

  

Sorry to be so candid 

It seems so "crazy" to me that anyone would take his side in this matter.  Yes there is something to be said for respectfulness, but not at the expense of the kids feeling security in their home.  A mothers job from the time a child is born is to raise that child to the best of her ability and protect him/her.  Did it occur to you that maybe Jeff wants his wife to make a choice on who she loves more so therefore he is the one creating th turmoil.  It is our job in life to raise the children of our future to be the best that they can be and you cannot do that without love and he does it with only rules and regulations.  That is not love that is a boss.
 
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