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March 1, 2006, 8:25 pm PST
03/01 Cheaters
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I only wanted to say that the feeling of broken-heartedness is very real in my case too. BUT IT GETS EASIER! Time is the only thing that helps. It has been two months since we had any intimate involvement, although I see him and talk to him several times a week.
The attention and gratification of someone finding you attractive is so tempting! I understand! We didn't get "caught" but ended our relationship reluctantly before both of our families were destroyed.
GOOD LUCK AND GIVE IT TIME!
I think both of you ladies need to put some serious effort into your marriages. Both of you may have feelings for these men but are these feeling worth your marriages. Feelings are a part of love but not the whole thing. Think of how your spouse cares for you, has partnered w/ you. Think about the wives' of these men. For the original sender, you need to toss out all contact info for this man. I don't believe in keeping secrets so you may want to confess to your husband because he deserves to know, wouldn't you. I know it may cost you your marriage but you put yourself in this position(not to sound harsh). I'm sure you heard the expression "be a man", well you have to be a women. For the lady who sent the reply, you need to stop all contact w/ this man, family friend or not. I know it may be hard but you may want to consider telling your husband as well. Not only does he have the right to know, but being family friends w/ this other guy will mean seeing him time & time again and this will make it hard to stay away from him & you guys could start up again. Once again this may cost you your marriage but you did put yourself in this situation. I think because of your situation you especially need to tell your husband if you want to save your marriage & stay away from this other man. Just a simple guys' opinion.
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