First and foremost, I think women might feel reluctant in coming close to you, because you yourself are reluctant in letting them come close.
You have to accept that you are who you are.Make sure you get all the facts straight about the physical intimacy part, by consulting a doctor whom you trust so your thoughts are correct and not just based on your feelings of anxiety.
I personally believe that sure, seeing a man (or woman) in a wheelchair might 'scare' people at first (if you even can call it scaring), but it's all about how the one in the wheelchair is behaving that will either subdue the scare or make it worse and you'll never see that person again.
If you have a good outlook on life, if you are totally happy with yourself, if you feel you still live a fullfilled 100% good life even though you cannot use parts of your body, than THAT is what you will shine from your heart.
People are drawn to positivity. Trust me on that. People are not drawn to others who have doubts, who have fears that block them from being who they truly are.
Just try that and see how that goes. It's an uphill battle, but like with every mountain, once your at the top, it's going to be an easy ride down the mountain and home again!
Petra
Thank you Petra,
Every word you say is absolutely true. I think very good about myself in every other field, and people feel that i am very happy. But you're right: when it comes to approaching women (with other intentions than just some smalltalk) that feeling gows down the drain. I surely have to work on that.
Jo
