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March 1, 2006, 9:07 am PST
Waiting with Anticipation
Quote From: jayndoe7 I think what causes the problems in so many relationships is not whether to teach the children to abide by the rules and respect others but how to go about teaching them that. In some marriages one parent will believe you should yell, scream, threaten, degrade, and otherwise bully children into listening while the other will believe you should lead by example, talk, discuss, and set reasonable consequences for breaking rules. Then of course, both parents think they're way is the right way and it becomes a battle over who is right and who will get their way (a lot of times). I will be definitely watching this show. My husband and I have been married for just under 2 years and sometimes it is very hard to deal with the arguments we have over my sons. I have four sons and my husband has a son and daughter. His daughter (14) comes every other weekend and my twins (13) are at home still. I have never met his son, my oldest son (18) is in the army stationed in Korea and other son (16) lives with his father. The problem lies with the discipline of one of my twins. My son is a dreamer and has somewhat of a drama personality. He has a huge imagination and sometimes he stretches the truth with the activities he does with his friends or school or whatever. I believe it to be harmless but my husband calls him a liar. We argue because my son may do something wrong like not following rules and my husband throws the book at him sort of speak. Sometimes I feel that my husband doesn't like my son because he gets along with the rest of them. Instead of talking with son to try to solve issues he belittles and talks down and then the war is on because I can't stand that. We try not to fight in front of my kids but they know and I think my son plays into it also. I'm not sure what to do because every time I tell myself that things will be different it ends up blowing up in my face. There are alot of other issues that lead up to all of this but it will take forever to write. So I will watch and tape the show and hopefully I will get my husband to watch also. Dr. Phil, I have come to totally respect and understand what you say. I tell everyone you make so much sense. Where were you so many years ago. Thank you.
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