|
April 12, 2006, 8:41 am PDT
Cheated On
Quote From: vickies2 It is your choice to allow it or not. I wouldn't allow it.
Why hasn't your relationship developed into a more permanent situation?
The " love of my life " cheated on me also, we were married 18 years and had 8 children together. He cheated, that doesn't mean he isn't the love of my life and vice-versa. Happyily married people can enter into affairs, just as unhappyily married people can. You aren't married though and now it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is very commited to you. What is he flying out to do exactly? He is weighing his options and hoping to end up with both women?
It is your life, decide how you want to live it and do it. If you want a commited monogamous relationship tell him. If he doesn't want the same thing then YOU have a decision to make. After 3 years of trying to be kind, hand on and hope for a re-conciliation of a marriage that apparently my husband has no feelings left for, although he teels me he still loves me and he will always take care of me (what does the ow feel about that I wonder?) I still hurt when he says things like "when we get done with this thing"-refering to our marriage and the completed divorce. I wonder how in the world it can still cause such depression and hopelessness in one's soul when someone can be so cruel and selfish in indulding themselves to the detriment of one they "cherish, love, and honor till death due us part"--promises and words mean nothing anymore--I wish the hurt would just go away-most days are better than today-- thanks for your support and replies
|
