Quote From: mrg5896
I too, am in the same situation as you. I have only been married for eight (9) years and I did cheat on my husband. Not intentionally. I know that sounds stupid, but I kept telling myself no, no, no, and then quess what, it happened. Up until that night, I also judged people who cheated and always told everyone that I would never cheat. Well now that it has happened, I feel differently towards those people. You never know what will happen until it happens. You can have the right intentions, but it only takes one little thing to make those intentions go the wrong way. It was basically just a one night stand. But the fact is, that I did cheat and now I feel horrible about what I did. I feel guilty and I can not even look at my husband without feeling badly. I too have not told him about what happened. I know that it would break his heart and I could not bear to do that. You all may be saying that I already did break his heart by cheating on him. Well that is true, but I feel that this cheating episode has brought me closer to my feelings for my husband, and that it has also taught me a lesson. A lesson well learned. I am now debating on if I should come clean and tell him.
The fact is if every time you look at your husband you feel guilt or know that you are not being honest then it will only drive a wedge between you. Come celan and let him decide to forfive or not.
That is true love. Setting someone free with the truth. Saving him the pain is just another lie you are telling yourself. He will have the pain of living the rest of his life with a woman that cannot deeply love him because of the deceit and lies. If he chooses to forgive then you can rebuild and honest, trusting and loving realtionship. If you don't it won't be a relationship worth being in. I would not want to live my life in a lie. Nor would I want to be your husband. I am sure he feels the same. Do the right thing and come clean. Good luck.
