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March 6, 2006, 9:49 pm PST

03/06 Love, Lies and the Law

Quote From: heren44

You see alot of women complaining about men that are controlling; but I have seen women that can be just as bad. I have been in Mental Health Groups where there are women that can be just as controling as men, and they are as afraid for their safety. I have heard of women beating their signaificant others up also. I personally feel just as bad for a man that goes thru that as a women does.
But, I do very much feel sorry for this woman that is going thru what she is going thru. I know how she feels, I have been thru it myself. I couldn't leave his sight when we first got together without him calling EVERYONE to find out where I was, and what was I doing! Trust me, it did not last long!! I made it very clear to him, just because I had a diamond on my finger-it can come off just as easy as it went on; I am NOT putting up with that type of bull_ _ _ _!! I have friends that I had a LONG time before I ever met him and if he thought I was giving them up, he was dead wrong! Not that I did not love my fiance, but I was NOT giving up MY PERSON-the person I was before we were together. He fell in love with the person I was-outgoing, friendly, caring, and passionate about my friends; and I was not about to change to satisfy him.
He tried it again one time after we were married, and again-it did NOT work!! We had a beautiful daughter, and I was not about to let her see that it was ok to let a man treat her that way! I had let her see other things in our marraige that I shouldn't, but that was one thing I drew the line at-do not let him alienate you from family or friends!! If you do, then he has you under his complete control, and you have lost the total person you are.
Good luck honey, and please-STAND UP FOR THE PERSON YOU ARE; AND KICK HIM TO THE CURB! I realize with him being a former police officer it is harder because they all seem to stick together, but get away from that area where he has no infulence over the law!!!
Take care of yourself, please!! If it has not gotten to the abuse stage, do not hang around for that because trust me-it WILL eventually, it will! Take it from a woman that knows for sure!!!

heren44@hotmail.com
hchilds@stny.rr.com

As I see it, it wasn't to hard to pick up that the wife pretty much dominated the conversation regarding the husband. I worked in the Mental Health Field for 18yrs. I've seen alot during that time. Nothing surprises me about what people come up with. Dr. Phil is pretty awesome. lori

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