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March 7, 2006, 5:41 am PST
 Quote From: dianah
I just read your letter and I want to Thank You..
I am so moved by what you wrote. It is so "true" and it "hit" home with myself and I am sure many other's.
I have found myself "hiding" the fact that I have several chronic illness's with new people I meet.
I also have had my med's stolden from a so called friend. (who after 3 years of battling a drug and booze addiction has seeked help)
I have re-read you letter 3 times now and it has really helped me "feel" so normal and not like a freak.
Bless your heart...
Last weekend I was excited about being able to do something I have not been able to do in years and again this weekend something again.. Having people out for an early dinner at 2.. My friend who also has chronic illness, and my husband and myself worked on cleaning house yesterday and cooking.. So excited about having the house full of friends and family..
It has taken me years to understand that pacing yourself is such a huge deal. Don't over do it and just work at your own pace and take those days to "rest". It's okay. And ask for extra help from friends and family.. And the big thing, "cheat" on things, like today, it is frozen pie's not homemade and easy one dish meals, chilli.. way easy..
And sure, it's not the old way I use to cook and entertain, but no one will even know or care. And I am okay with it, it will just be so wonderful to have this house full of some laughter.
Just to let you also know, watch the movie Walk the Line last night and it is a "great" movie..
Valerie, again, thank you.
Hang in there everyone..
Diana from "not windy" Wy.. today
Glad I could help, and so nice to see you already working on getting the quality of your life back..before you read my quote..and glad to see a supportive husband, as I am blessed with one ,too. I've lost most of my family and friends too, and it is actually neat to meet new ones, and even if it's strangers that emphathize, not sympathize, don't need that, it's okay...they either have a story of thier own, or perhaps can realize, 'but for the grace of God go I' and if a family member or a friend becomes chronically ill, they will treat them better, having an understanding..and if it spreads..maybe so many people would not be writing in about the abandonment they feel. My network of people that only deal with me when they have to, I put in the balcony in the Theatre of my life, and some can even got escorted outside the door. I've learned if you can't change the people around you, CHANGE the people around you. Not everybody has a right to sit in the front row, and it's okay to move them back alittle, or the balcony, or outside altogether. Put some people at a distance, and you can even love them from a distance, but YOU put them there..it's okay..we've been told all our lives, "treat people the way you want to be treated", and so have they. Go have FUN!!!! Enjoy your life, and new found freedom, and don't stop looking for ways to grow and learn more ways to deal that fit YOU..and catch up on all the things you've missed...if you can't do it anymore..watch and encourage!! Everybody has to sit on the sidelines sometimes, it's not a bad thing, only if we make it that way..being a cheerleader or just part of the team of life is enough,..glad you discovered on your own...your strong and a fighter, never forget it!!! BE!!!!!! Valerei |
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