Quote From: atatoianHi. I have a friend, and him and his girl friend are always having relationship problems. They both care about each other but, they fight nonstop. A few times like today she took us to Sinking Ponds after begging her to go with us. Then we both got out vehicle she locked her doors and drove off leaving us behind. She called and said he had to make a choice. If he wasn't to call back in 10 minutes, she was going to go home and and leave him. When he called her back he, she said " were leaving and dropping Alex off at his house. Or you can break up with me cause I'm heading home". So she picked us up, but said "you wont be seeing Andy for awhile". I don't know what to do. If you could give me some advice on how to help them out, it would be very great.
People who "care about each other" don't behave the way you described. They seem in love with having a relationship, but definitely not in love with eachother. As Dr. Phil always says, "We teach people how to treat us." If a man (or woman) is going to allow their special someone to treat them like crap, than that "special" person isn't all that special...in fact, s/he has major problems and shouldn't be in a relationship. The receiving person is a SAP (yes, a sucker) and will continue to get dumped on until s/he stands up for himself.
You shouldn't be in the middle of this. If I were in your shoes, I'd tell my buddy that I would hang out with him when (and only when) he's alone (or at least not with his supposed girlfriend). Otherwise, you're being dragged into a fight that nobody will win.
People need to wake up and start respecting themselves. When they do that, they won't put up with such foolish behavior on the part of someone who is supposed to love them.
I wish your friend much luck (I hope he wakes up soon and gets emotionally healthy so he'll dump the loser). I also wish you much luck. Perhaps by you refusing to hang out with them when they're together, he'll start to realize that SHE is affecting his important friendships. This might be what makes him leave her. We can always hope:)
