Quote From: pprincessSome of my rellos are control freaks. I have learned to distance myself from my mother and two of my sisters as they nitpick over trivial issues. They rouse on me for suffering from Clinical Depression, rouse on me for taking anti-depressants, then rouse on me for talking to other people about it.
One aunty was always interferring in financial matter-telling me I should be paying off one of Mum's debts. To cut a long story short, she demands an apology for making her look bad because of her interferance. [It was none of her darned business anyway. I sent a reply saying no apology was forthcoming and if she wanted to remove herself from my life, it was her choice and her loss.
I also insisted upon being treated with respect, dignity and as an equal-despite suffering from Asperger's Syndrome.
Mum tells other rellos I don't like her. Well, she doesn't like me as she always assumed the worst about me. She dishes out emotional blackmail with a shovel so I told her the emotional and verbal abuse must stop. She said I can't dictate like that. [I'm not dictating. That's what Hitler and Stalin did!
She tells one aunt she is reaching out which is a load of baloney. She rarely phones and she doesn't visit me when she is in Sydney. However, this particular aunty thinks I'm making it all up as Mum "is such a nice person".
Am I doing OK so far by standing up for myself?
I recently had to sever my relationship with my father. This doesn't mean that I don't love him or that I never want to see him again. I moved 300 miles away and I go home to visit my Mom 2 or 3 times a year. I just can't have him in my life on a regular basis anymore.
He is extremely controlling and he absolutely won't mind his own business even though I am 35 years old. It was a very painful decision to make but I am no longer going to accept his calls. He makes me so upset and I can't continue to put my husband and children through that anymore.
Good Luck
