Replies to '02/21 More Wifestyles'

Quote From: kschmittz

Good morning!  I was looking to resond to a specific post re:  the 50/50 clarification you mentioned but I cannot seem to pull it up.  You mentioned something about if 50/50 means the husband should work and then come home to do 50% of the cleaning.  I will tell you first off, I saw you and the show (online only) so I'm sure I missed a lot.  However, you talk a lot about what Kelly's requirements are and how Grant must feel.  I can appreciate your viewpoint may be skewed due to the fact you're hubby is/was ready to divorce a couple of times now.  That speaks volumes in my book.  That said, I do agree that a couple should talk about what expectations are before the kids/marriage happen.  However, just because Grant brings home the check doesn't give him the right to treat Kelly the way he does.  He has reponsibilities that go far beyond a paycheck and in my book he is not living up to those.  He has the reponsibility to insure his family's well being and happiness.  Yes, he is to be the Leader but not a tyrant.  If Kelly needs help in one area (housekeeping, organizing, cooking) and it's causing so much tension why wouldn't he get her hired help?  Seems to me he's more concerned with being right than about what Kelly might feel.  Yes, she does have responsibility to keep a decent house and all that however I think she does that the best she can.  She said, basically, her kids and time with them comes first.  Truthfully, I think more Moms should be like her.  I wish I could let things go , to a point, and enjoy my kids.  I find it hard to relax and play games with them unless everything is just so and that's not always good.  You see, I have always worked so my husband and I both do household chores.  Sometimes, I do more and sometimes he does.  We look at what needs to be done, who has time to do it and then we go for it.  We don't have time to worry about whose "job" it is and all that.  Just get it done!  I hope I didn't confuse you with my answer.  Overall, yes, if the at-home person is giving their best I think the spouse should support them.  Everyone has different standards that work for them.  I just have a big problem with the mentality that if the hubby brings home a check the woman must sacrifice everything to please him as part of her wifely duty.  The respect and support must work both ways in my book.