Replies to '02/21 More Wifestyles'

You know, Amy, I think your viewpoint is skewed in a pretty weird way.  In 28 years that my husband and I have been together, I have never had to "hold my husband accountable" nor has he had to with me.  I have also never seen such a situation within my acquaintance and family (I have 5 remaining siblings-all successful in long term marriages). 

I don't discount the idea that if someone in a marriage is just irresponsible and lazy, maybe their spouse has to do something to "hold them accountable" -I don't know what...remove his wedding ring?? 

That certainly isn't the usual case nor one that is very healthy.  When we are talking about grown ups who behave in a responsible manner, there should be a partnership not a hierarchy.  We don't need to be double checking that we are doing our best, we are assuming it.  

And you have repeated several times that if someone has more bad days than good, they need to be "accountable"....how about the idea that they just need some help??  I know when my practice grew and my assistant was putting in overtime, I hired an assistant for her -cheaper than overtime and healthier for all of us.  How would it have helped my staff member if I suggested she be more organized?