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Quote From: deeplyhurt

It's been about 4 days now since we have not spoken to each other. He doesn't bring up the matter at all. I have tried to let go about what happened that Friday when he told me he couldn't talk to me while he was at work but turned around and called his son/ex and talked to them. Every time I think about it I just get more hurt and upset. I feel his sons have more priority than I do. In fact, everyone has more priority than I do. About his sons I agree I shouldn't be the one to discipline them. I feel it should be him and the ex-wife to discipline their children. He told me that it's not his place to discipline them because he not the sole provider. He said it should be the mother because that's who the son lives with. I think he doesn't want to be label as a mean father because of the fact that he rarely spend time with them (which I'm sure he blames me for it). Also I don't think the mother is around much for the younger son either. I don't think she's really the mothering type. Whenever the boys need something they always call their dad. The older son calls his dad whenever he needs money or a ride to somewhere. I mean his son is 22 yrs.old and he's suppose to be working so why should my husband have to give me money. He even gave his son his old cell phone to use but his son can't afford to buy minutes for the phone. My husband has to buy minutes for him so he could use the phone. I don't get it. I feel if his son can't afford to buy his own minutes for his phone then he shouldn't be having a cell phone. My husband tells me we need to watch our budget so that means we can't eat out anymore. What makes my blood boil is the fact that he tells me this but he goes and spend money on his sons and on his cars and on himself. I'm the one who is constantly watching our finance and making sure we have enough to pay for bills and the mortgage. I don't even spend at all. I can't even remember the last time I have gone shopping. I mean he doesn't even buy me a present when it's my birthday, anniversary or valentine's day not even a card. This past valentine's day I asked him where's my card and he said to me, "where's my card?" I told him I was planning on getting him a card but because our shower was out of commission at the time I wasn't able to get washed up and go out to get it. Well, he said to me it's the thought the counts.  Well, that applied to me as to why he didn't get a card from me but it didn't apply to him because he could have gotten me a card after work or something. I bet it never even cross his mind to get me a card. It's things like this that really hurts me and makes me so upset.