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March 7, 2006, 2:13 pm PST
Tiffany you are not alone I have an adhd son
Quote From: shawspapMy husband is bi-polar, we have been married for 17 years. Within the last year he has bought , sold, traded cars nine times. He kept one car for two weeks, these are brand new, fully loaded
vehicles, most people think we are millionaires, what a joke!!!
My sister is also bi-polar, she is 47, tried to committ suicide at least 3 times, been in treatment centers and hospitals on a yearly basis.
Don't you think I would have seen this coming?? How could I not see the signs??
Feeling tired and foolish. Tiffany I was at the same point you are now 13yrs ago with my son. I knew he was different than my daughter in so many ways. He never picked up after himself like his toys. He would play with something and then all of a sudden he would be somewhere else playing or doing something he shouldn't have been doing. I was able to follow a trail all the way to him. My doctor said the same thing that you are running into he kept saying it was just the age bracket and I kept saying no it's not. My son sat at the table one day right in front of me and my late husband and out of the blue picked up a kitchen knife and reached over and cut his sisters hand open and she is two yrs older than him. I was going nuts and kept saying to the doctor that I felt like all I would do during the day is say no and tell him to go to his room and then I put him in pre-school and had paid the entire year ahead of time. However he was too disruptive to the other children they couldn't get him to stay sitting through story time and instead of trying to get him to listen they left him go off and do what he wanted and as I have learned over the years that is not good. ADHD children need structure in there life they need a routine and you cannot stray from the routine because it will mess up there whole day. At any rate my daughter was in kindergarten when the teacher had sent papers home with the kids about our special ed program here and with signs of ADHD. It said if you could answer yes to any of the questions then there was a chance your child had the disorder well we passed the test with flying colors--flying colors that said yes to every question on the paper. We took him to be tested by Lincoln Intermediate which is the special ed here in Pennsylvania. They said that he was most likely ADHD just by watching him and asking him to do things and they also figured out that he was nuerologically impaired once he was in kindergarten. They sent me to a psychologist and he tested my son and when he got the test results back said that he was the most severe case of ADHD that he had seen. They put him in a program called Head Start here for kids that needed structure and routine. Then when he went to kindergarten he was on meds Cylert but it wasn't working and he was disruptive in class by wanting to sit on the teachers lap for storytime and just getting up and walking around and going to play when he was suppose to be doing work. Then the day I feared came he was outside with the class and he was alone another child came over and started to bother him and out of nowhere he took the truck he had in his hand and hit the kid with it. After that we had to go to kindergarten with him till they could get him re-evaluated and in the right program. He saw a psychiatrist who then called my family doctor and told him that my son needed to be on catapres which is a drug that covers alot of disorders but in my sons case it controls his impulsivity. When all this was going on he had my attention 23 hours a day out of 24 and my daughter didn't have my full attention. ADHD kids do best with a routine from day to day. My son is now 17 and there are still times that I have to redirect him or remind him to take his medication. The teachers say that they can see the difference in him when he takes his meds and when he forgets and I end up running them to school. My husband passed away five years ago and I had to quit my job to take care of him because there are alot of meetings that I have to go to for his school. He is a little better than he was when he was little but with the teenage years it can be like starting all over again. I was also told a couple years ago that it is not uncommon for kids with ADHD to also be Bipolar or ODD(Opositional Defiance Disorder) when he was in 7th grade they reevaluated him and he was put into an emotional support classroom they said he also had ODD.
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