Quote From: hkshotOkay, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. He is 27 and I am 24 and we live together. The bottom line is that he never..and when I say never...I mean never, wants to have sex with me. We have gone almost 3 months without it. I try to talk to him about it and he says that "our relationship isn't based on sex", well no duh, but at least a little will help. I have went through all of the emotions of being mad, sad, confused, feeling fat and ugly...when I know I am not. Any other boyfriend of mine use to want to have sex as much as I did. I have tried talking to him to not saying anything and just letting him initiate it. And the nights that I do try to have sex with him, he's too tired. I am tired of being rejected!!! This seriously hurts my heart, I don't know what to do. He's a wonderful person, and I know and believe in my heart that he's not cheating. But I don't want to end up resenting him more than I do now. Any advice?????
Hello, from TX!
Find out why he is acting this way. Did he act this way when you first began dating each other, or has he always been this way? I would say...you have no legal committment to this guy, you are very young, and have a different sex drive - hmmm! It's time to move on, and find someone who likes what you like! There is no better feeling than the feeling of being sexually satisfied, desired, loved, and you will not find it in the guy you are with. Don't try to change him because it's not worth the time, and frustration.
It's terrible to feel rejected! It crushes your self-esteem making you feel worthless as a woman, etc. I have been there...for most of my 26 years of marriage. If I knew then what I know now...you know the end of the story. I would have found a guy that would have desired me, and loved to have sex. I am into the role-playing thing, eating food on body parts, pleasing my man, etc. But I married the wrong man. He is not into that at all! Love has kept us together. After so many years of marriage, it's not worth finding some other guy just for sex. Maybe, in my next life, huh?
I'd say, go girl! You have a long sexually fulfilled sex life waiting for you with another man. Go find him. He's out there somewhere, but please, give him a "short-arm" inspection, first. I know that this is not the way to find out if a guy has an STD, but you can make it fun!
