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March 8, 2006, 8:06 am PST
suggestions?
Quote From: elanenergyIt is with so much sadness and empathy that I read your posts and watch Dr. Phil's show on this dreadful disorder. My only child, Eric, was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at age 9, following an ADHD diagnosis at age 6. My husband and I divorced after 20 years due to an ugly betrayal and subsequent marriage and child with his new bride. This, I believe, is what sent my boy into full fledged bipolar. He had good treatment from a psychiatrist and counselor, but we could never find the right meds. He went to public school, but it was probably coming to an end because of his anger and disrespect. Eric was not Bipolar II, but he had become increasingly violent during his rages--punching me in the arm and taking a knife and threatening me. Each time, I would call the psychiatrist and we would up the meds to help him be stable. But he ended up secretly taking his own life---not in a state of pyschosis because I was just upstairs and he didn't make a peep. Now, one year later, I'm just numb. Dead, for all intents and purposes. My reason for living is gone. And he was my best friend, and the person I most admired in the world. He managed his disease like a champ. But make no mistake. Even Bipolar I can end in suicide--15-20% of biopolar people take their own life. Please keep seeking help. And don't stop until you feel you've found the right help. With all my blessings. I have long time been diagnosed with depression, but more recently the diagnosis was correctly changed to bi-polar. And I am deeply aware of all the effects of bi-polar. But the issue isn't so much mine
. My boyfriends brother was recently diagnosed with bi-polar , after we finally convinced him to go to a Dr. He recently moved in with my boyfriend and myself after being evicted from his apartment. He is a talented musician, but has trouble holding a job, and has a drinking problem. He's been giving stuff away, and talkes about living in a van and driving across country, or just taking off to somewhere far away (sounds like dropping off the face of the planet to me). These tendancies sound very suicidal to me and they scare me. even if he's not consciously suicidal it sounds like he's quickly moving in that direction.
After the Dr. diagnosed him, he said great thanks doc, see ya. I think he does believe he has the disease, but does not seem to believe in medication or want to see a therapist (even though we're willing to pay for it). It doesn't help that his family is very anit-medication (I have trouble with my boyfriend you seems to think medication is a conspiracy to create a need by the drug companies- idiot ,I know) any way- this is his brother, and his mother is no better. We're pretty sure his father committed suicide after a long time illness. and my friend believes he is much like his father and destined to carry out his fathers legacy-(suicide included?).
This is an extrmely intelligent man. I'm smart too, but when you try to have a conversation with him, he can philisophically rationally anything-well. He has such logical, well thought out justicications for suicide, for not taking medications, or seeing a docter..
His state really scares me. He doesn't seem to want any help, (except room and board). I know sometimes it takes bottoming out before someone accepts help. But what if his bottoming out is suicide. What do I do? His brother and I are scared that there is nothiing else we can do but watch him disintigrate.
We could really use some suggestions. Anyone?
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