Quote From: lifewithasHi there
Well done for opening up and getting it out, are you feeling better for moving forward.
My best advise is for you to start with you, start loving and respecting yourself. Its like Dr Phil says we teach people how to treat us, if we don't treat ourselves with love and respect then noone else with Go for therapy for you, get strong then you can deal with this bully start today and Stop him destroying you. You are in control, I know it does not seem like it yet but only you can control your thoughts. You know that arguing over the same things does not work - so stop that pattern of behaviour, change it , refuse to engage walk away and do something else. Let him know that whilst he shouts etc you will not discuss it you are in a habit which you can break - therapy will help so take the next step forward and arrange it and go for you. Do it for you and your children .
You can get out of theis trap
Big Hug
Bev x
I understand how you feel and my heart goes out to you! First talk to your family and friends, let them know what your are going through and how you are feeling. I have found that my family and friends are the BEST! Get counseling for yourself, get control of your feelings and emotions. You need to make some big decisions in your life, some will be hard and others will be easy. Remember what your children are seeing and hearing is how they may they may start treating others, even you. Mental abuse is very hard to prove in court so go out and buy a spiral notebook and journal everything (just remember to hide it). When I journal I found it better to leave my emotions out, just write the facts. Talk to lawyer and get advise. If you have to ask your family for financial help with the lawyer and or the counselor do so. Maybe your family and friends will be happy that your eyes are opening up to the problems, I know my where. If it wasn't for my family and friends I would have never survived the separation or divorce. It has been four years and he still is fighting over our children. Two things I have learned about myself, he can't knock me down and I will survive what ever he dishes out to me.
Remember you are never alone! Stay strong.
My thoughts and prayers are with you
JJ
