Replies to '08/01 Extreme Highs and Lows'

Help please!  I don't know what to do.  My husband started off with anxiety and panic attacks after our daughter was born and now almost two years later, after being on depression meds, he is getting worse!  My husbands behavior resembles Cathy's? behavior.  I never know when he is going to get angry and the things he gets angry about are most of the time rediculous, he has days where he will sit on the couch, stare, and won't say a word and then other days he is singing happily and running and yelling happily through the house.  He also has worked through the night  without sleep like Cathy.  He claims he can work better then with no distractions.  He has become physical with me within the last two months.  He was seeing a counselor once a week during the time he got physical with me... for depression and a psychiatrist to evaluate his meds.  Things are progressing worse quickly and I just can't have our four children subjected to his behaviors.  We try to remind him every night to take his meds (lexapro)...so far he has been on them for 6 weeks straight but to be honest, I think he is worse!  (He used to skip a day of taking his meds and then take two a day to make up for it...I know he wasn't supposed to do that!) 

The counselor told my hubby he doesn't think it is bipolar and that we can work through this.  I am shocked......My gut feeling tells me it is bipolar, but I am not a professional in that area.   

What makes matters worse is when my hubby did get physical with me I called his parents to come take him away.  They did not understand what was going on and they blammed me and then they wanted ME to leave the house with 5 kids (my niece was over), his parents asked me if I took my synthroid pill to make sure I wasn't the one depressed,  his parents wanted to know  if I had dinner cooked for him (yes, by the way, we had chili :), and they told me that my children aggrevate him and I should have spanked the kids when they were young.  (my children are straight A students, involved in activities and have good friends!), and that my children and I are my husbands enemies and we were always ganging up on him.  Not to mention they wanted to know why I didn't take my toddler to daycare in the morning instead of their son (it was arranged that way before we had the baby...i would have the baby in condition that he would take the baby to daycare and I would pick the baby up...since I had three already and he wanted another....also daycare is on the way to his work plus have I have three other children and myself to get out the door in the morning) Then his dad wanted to know why I slept in til 8am...funny since i have to be to work at 7:50!  And then his dad said after they told me and the kids to leave the house that He wouldn't want my A&% in his house either.... 

So, now I have a husband that has behaviors I can't deal with, in-laws that won't educate themselves on mood swings, depression, bipolar, etc and blame everything on me. 

Obviously, I didn't handle things correct.....the inlaws lightened up a little bit after I sent them pictures of my arms all black and blue, but most of all I think they are trying to forget what happened. 

If anyone has any ideas...please help.   

I think we need a real professional in this area but where do I find one? 

Help please!  I don't know what to do.  My husband started off with anxiety and panic attacks after our daughter was born and now almost two years later, after being on depression meds, he is getting worse!  My husbands behavior resembles Cathy's? behavior.  I never know when he is going to get angry and the things he gets angry about are most of the time rediculous, he has days where he will sit on the couch, stare, and won't say a word and then other days he is singing happily and running and yelling happily through the house.  He also has worked through the night  without sleep like Cathy.  He claims he can work better then with no distractions.  He has become physical with me within the last two months.  He was seeing a counselor once a week during the time he got physical with me... for depression and a psychiatrist to evaluate his meds.  Things are progressing worse quickly and I just can't have our four children subjected to his behaviors.  We try to remind him every night to take his meds (lexapro)...so far he has been on them for 6 weeks straight but to be honest, I think he is worse!  (He used to skip a day of taking his meds and then take two a day to make up for it...I know he wasn't supposed to do that!) 

The counselor told my hubby he doesn't think it is bipolar and that we can work through this.  I am shocked......My gut feeling tells me it is bipolar, but I am not a professional in that area.   

What makes matters worse is when my hubby did get physical with me I called his parents to come take him away.  They did not understand what was going on and they blammed me and then they wanted ME to leave the house with 5 kids (my niece was over), his parents asked me if I took my synthroid pill to make sure I wasn't the one depressed,  his parents wanted to know  if I had dinner cooked for him (yes, by the way, we had chili :), and they told me that my children aggrevate him and I should have spanked the kids when they were young.  (my children are straight A students, involved in activities and have good friends!), and that my children and I are my husbands enemies and we were always ganging up on him.  Not to mention they wanted to know why I didn't take my toddler to daycare in the morning instead of their son (it was arranged that way before we had the baby...i would have the baby in condition that he would take the baby to daycare and I would pick the baby up...since I had three already and he wanted another....also daycare is on the way to his work plus have I have three other children and myself to get out the door in the morning) Then his dad wanted to know why I slept in til 8am...funny since i have to be to work at 7:50!  And then his dad said after they told me and the kids to leave the house that He wouldn't want my A&% in his house either.... 

So, now I have a husband that has behaviors I can't deal with, in-laws that won't educate themselves on mood swings, depression, bipolar, etc and blame everything on me. 

Obviously, I didn't handle things correct.....the inlaws lightened up a little bit after I sent them pictures of my arms all black and blue, but most of all I think they are trying to forget what happened. 

If anyone has any ideas...please help.   

I think we need a real professional in this area but where do I find one?