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March 9, 2006, 7:52 am PST
 Quote From: mcknightcj hi my name chelsea and I"m 26 yrs old and a stay at home mother of four. I have a 5yr old, a 6 yr old, a 2yr old, and a 2 month old. I've been married twice and this is my second marriage. I've been married to my husband for almost four yrs. When we first got together we only had the 5 and 6 yr old, and we use to have sex every night. Then about two yr had gone by we had our first child together. While i was preagnet with our first baby i did not want to have sex allot. After i has our first child i still did not want to have allot of sex either.Then we just had our last baby this year and when i was preagnet with this child i still did not want to have sex that much either. Now i still do not want to have sex allot either. My husband is 29 yrs old and he tells me that their is something wrong with me cause i do not want to have sex at least three to four times in a week or in a day. He also accuses me of cheating or that i do not like men or that i"m gay because we only have sex once a week. I tell him how am i suppose to fine time to cheat when I'm taking care of all the kids cooking cleaning and running areins and taking kids to school and working three hours at night. He tells me you could find time if you wanted to cheat bad enought, he also told me the only reason to get married is so you can have sex all the time. He thinks about sex 24-7. He always complains that he never gets any sex at all. He also talks about our sex life to the other guys at work. The other guys tell him they get sex when ever they want. He also get mad because i will not have sex with him durning the day while all the kids are here, I tell him that is not approate for the kids to see or hear. He has also told me if i do not start having sex with him more that i need to get out or he will go some where else. He also said that most women should be horney when they are pregnet. The other night he wanted to have sex while our two yr old son was up and lying in our bed. is it me or is it him that is not right. Please help me and tell me Your husband's actions of wanting sex while the child is in bed with you is very inappropriate. Making love is something that is done between two consenting adults and not in the precense of children. He has a very bad attitude towards marriage. Its not just so you can have sex whenever he wants it. Its a commitment of two people to share life. Sounds like your doing all the work and he wants the benifits.
Your looking after four children, thats alot of work to begin with..and then household duties on top of that. Maybe your just to tired to have a sex drive, or maybe you just are sick of being looked at by your husband as a vehicle for his sexual pleasure.
Maybe if he helped out a bit, you would have a feeling of being needed and loved for something other than sex. Maybe if he looked after your sexual pleasure in bed instead of his own, you would enjoy sex more? He needs a wake up call. You need to have a talk with him and spell it out, he's immature and selfish. He needs to grow up or your in for a very long and unhappy life with yet another man who is not compatible with you and your needs and another divorce is just around the corner. ~Red |
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