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please tell me how, ive been with my momms boy for five years and its been hell. my hubby had grown kids ,so i though that it wouldnt be as bad as if they  were little-WRONG. IT WAS MUCH WORSE the  first christmas we were married his son of 34  said some of the meanest hurtful things to me and his did nothing oh nine days later he came in and put the blame on me ,said that his son felt cornerd,and that i shouldnt have ask him if id done something to hurt his feelings/what about my feelings it was my christmas too.than the next year ,not that things were easytil then,thanksgiving the next year his mother let me have it , she told me that she didnt like me and never would,that she tried to talk him out of marring me,and that it was ok if he wanted to be friends with his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend and if he wanted to lend them money without telling me that was ok too.well to hell if it is, his ex-wife comes to every holiday there is,but she doesnt come to her grandkids partys, she waits and goes to my bro,in-laws grandkids partys i told my bro.in -law how i feel about it ,that it makes me feel coneasy but he still has her there,i didnt go for christmas at his house because she was there i didnt go to his granbaby party  i took her gift the night before and told her that i loved her be that i wasnt going to be able to come to her party but that i hope her day was a great day.i have told my hubby that what his brother is doing knowing how i feel ,is mean and very hurtful,and that i was not going to be at any gathering at his borthers that had my hubby,s ex-wife there,so my hubby said that we just wouldnt go if she was going to be invited to it ,that we would go letter when she went homeor we just wouldnt go at all, but knowing how spinless my hubby is he wont stick to it ,he never doesat least were their concern lots of luck to you all meandluke