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March 10, 2006, 4:56 pm PST
03/10 Follow-ups
Quote From: talitha63On Marlon and Shamika's second vist when she could not think of anything positive to say about Marlon after he had worked so hard to make her happy, I wondered what was the real problem.
It did not seem that a reasonable person could still be so unhappy with Marlon.
I don't know that I would have the ability to continue placing my feelings, emotions, and ego out there for someone to find me not measuring up to thier standards again and again.
I was sad for Marlon at first, then I was sad for them both.
Shamika is so negative, she cannot seem to see positives, I think that something else must be keeping her from being happy and instead of dealing with that, she is blaming him. It might be healthier if Marlon moves on, someone so negative would tend to poison those around them at some point. I thought the same thing after the second show, and at the beginning of this show, when Marlon said he was done, I said good. Shamika's only emotions seemed to be mad and very mad. Like Bridgette from yesterday, she seemed like a woman who could never be pleased. But once Dr. Phil got her to admit her feelings to Marlon, I could see it. I have a friend who was just like her, bottled up her emotions, and she married a guy who wore his emotions on his sleeve - like Marlon. She seemed like a b*tch to everyone who really didn't know her, but she wasn't. She's a great person. Being around her husband and his family, and having children, really made her realize that she didn't need to guard herself and act like she was made of steel. She's a living, breathing human being, capable of being hurt and feeling helpless, no matter how she acted. So is Shamika. I hope she realizes she's very lucky. She's an absolutely beautiful woman, and I would love to see her smile more! Marlon, although I'm sure not perfect either, seems so sweet and well-meaning, and I'd really like to see these two make it. I can understand that he felt like giving up, like he was done trying, but I hope they really work at understanding each other, because it will be worth it.
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